Everyone goes into marriage believing it will be forever. They think they have it all figured out – the two story house, the 2.5 kids, the little white picket fence . . . and just when everything is going great – boom . . . something side swipes you from left field. Suddenly, your marriage is hanging in the balance and you are left asking yourself . . . when is enough – enough?

The answer to that is both simple and complicated all at the same time. It just depends on your situation. If there is distance between the two of you and there has been for quite some time – make time for each other.

Do the things you once enjoyed. You might just fall in love all over again in the process. If you are operating under different, much more hurtful circumstances, the decision can be more difficult. If you have discovered that your spouse is cheating then you have to step back and decide whether you think you can live with the simple fact of infidelity in the back of your mind each day. This must be a decision that you make with a clear head. Don't make a hasty decision.

Think things out. Give yourself time to process the information and then reassess the situation when you are calm. If you are in a physically abusive relationship enough is enough the first time you're it happens. Many women may stick around out of fear and many for other reasons such as financial security for their children or religious reasons. Know that local women's shelters can help you get back on your feet and provide you with a safe, discreet place to stay – often a nice apartment in town. If you are staying for religious reasons – remember that the Bible says to "choice life not death." It's the perfect motto to live by.