Jealousy Issues in a Relationship

Are you guilty of letting the green eyed monster into your relationship one too many times?  If so you should do what you can to vanquish the beast.  Jealousy is not a positive emotion to constantly have brought up in your relationship and can cause a lot of individual stress as well as problems between you as a couple.  You need to think about why it is you are so jealous and then what it is you can do to fix those jealousy issues and have a healthier relationship overall.

Why are you so jealous?  Is there a good reason to be?  Actually sometimes there is.  Perhaps your partner has cheated on you in the past and there are trust issues within the relationship.  Only time and communication can help with this one as the other person strives to reestablish a trusting relationship.  But, you do need to live up to your end of the bargain.  You agreed to forgive and forget and work on the relationship after the infidelity.  You need to strive to do just that.  It can be hard at times to forget and this may be the basis of your jealousy issues but with time this will diminish.

Speaking of infidelity, what are you up to?  Sometimes feelings of jealousy arise from a sense of misplaced guilt.  Perhaps you are the one who is not entirely faithful and you think what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.  You assume if you are doing it so is the other person and you start to question where they are going and who they are going out with.  It can get so bad as to ruin a relationship.  So, if you have guilt driven jealousy issues, the best way to rid yourself of that is to straighten up yourself. 

If neither of you is cheating, though and there does not seem like a valid reason for jealousy issues, the most common reason it occurs is insecurity.  Often you may not feel worthy of the love your partner gives you or perhaps you think they are better than you are.  Maybe your partner has a lot of admirers and is extremely attractive.  Well, so what?  Lucky you!  Just because others might find your honey attractive as well doesn’t mean anything is going on.  In fact if there should be jealousy in those situations it should not be within the relationship bu from those outside it who want what you have.