First Date Rules for Ladies
This article is for all you ladies out there that need some serious help with your first date etiquette!
by PaulaH
It is so common to find a first date just perfect for you. He books you a table at the best joint in town, picks you up on time, and sips on wine while he is trying to get to know you better. And then over dinner he begins to lose interest, is fidgeting and not paying attention to the conversation. By the time he brings you home, he just about mutters a good bye and speeds off leaving you wondering what you did!
You just may have unwittingly broken any one of the first date rules. Here are some to stick to on a first date and convert it into a second one if you liked the guy:
* Be a romantic challenge to your date. Do not complain about dating, if you are not happy about dating, he may just do that – not be out on a date with you again! If you find dating awful and mention it to the man, he will most certainly drop any intentions of pursuing you romantically instantly.
* Stay sober through your first date. You must never get tipsy as a rule on your first date; you need sobriety in order to ascertain your date’s character. If you take more than two drinks or so, are you going to be in any shape to figure out if he is the one for you? Observe him well and pay attention to the conversation on both sides.
* Keep your emotional baggage locked up on the first date. Do not talk about your exes and how rude or bad they have been to you. A first date is hardly appropriate to recite your grievances; these will make you sound as if you are unavailable or too wounded for a new relationship.
* Allow the man to chase you; he is less likely to lose you. You must never chase your date. Invite the man out for a date and leave it to him to initiate a second or a third date, men love to chase. The thrill of chasing you will make you feel good and special too! After the first date, release the man; if he liked you allow him to take the lead in the relationship.
* Less conversation can speak too! You must never feel pressured to fill up every silent second you are together. Silences in-between conversations are natural and sometimes silence can speak louder. Your body language also sends the right signals and you do not have to cram every second with thoughtless gibberish, it may just drive him away! Slowly smile at your date and wait till he restarts the conversation most of the times.
* If you are not enjoying your first date, exit right away! Learning how to exit quickly yet gracefully is also important. So, you have wined and dined but you still cannot connect; you do not enjoy his company at all? Rather than suffer throughout the evening, you’d better depart with grace and without being rude. Thank him for the meeting, say you have to go and with a smile turn on your heel and disappear.