Communication in Your Relationship
Ever wondered what your partner is thinking or feeling? Why not just ask...here's a little help on how to better communicate with your significant other.
by PaulaH
It is surprising that while dating, we ask questions on what to do and what to say from everybody we know; friends, family, internet buddies and even therapists are consulted on doing just the right things on a date and with your partner. How about asking the date? Why do we not talk about it with our partners? Perhaps the lack of communication in any relationship is the single most important factor for troubled times.
You must be confident of your dating partner and the relationship itself. If you have confidence in the relation, you are bound to know where it is heading and what is required of you. If you think there is any kind of misunderstanding or have an issue cropping up, instead of asking everybody else, asks your partner how to solve it. Do not close the channels of communication so early on in the relationship. If he or she is the right person for you, life will be difficult if you cannot speak with them.
Mostly we are fearful of doing the wrong thing or saying something untoward in the dating relationship. Due to this constant fear, your natural behavior is killed. The fear of not being liked and having to rekindle your search for a date can spoil your day out. You remain guarded in your talking and gestures. But be yourself and communicate well. Unless you talk and listen, which is the essence of communication, how would you be able to asses your date as a potential long term relationship?
In order to keep the communication alive, it is not essential to keep incessantly chattering. Listening and just being comfortably quiet and smiling at each other is also a part of communication. Express your feelings, share your thoughts and fears and you will be satisfied with the favorable response from your date! Good communication during your dating period is what will determine whether the relationship remains for long or not. If you cannot communicate with your loved one, how do you ever suppose they will know your feelings and expectations from the relationship?
Sadly, most dating relationships lack communication and this is one of the key reasons for breakups. Start by accepting the lack of communication and discuss with your date on how you can bring it in your daily lives. Learn to communicate your feelings and thoughts without fear and hesitation and pay heed to your date’s feelings when expressed. Encourage each other to express your desires and feelings in words and you are bound to be on the right path of communication in your relationship.