How to Make Your Relationship Last
Making a relationship last is more like a marathon than a sprint: it needs strength, endurance, and a willingness to hold on until you reach the finish line.
by PaulaH
You’ll feel all kinds of aches and pains weighing you down, and it all boils down to whether or not you have what it takes to see it through until the end. Everyone hopes of the same thing in their relationships: that this is the one that takes the cake, that goes for the gold, that scores the winning touchdown. You hope this is will be the last relationship you’ll ever have, and this partner will be the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with. To achieve all these, however, you have to know that a good, strong relationship is a funny mixture of two things: a stable and strong foundation, as well as a sense of adventure and the daring to try out new experiences.
To build a strong, stable foundation, you must have:
• Trust – You should know whether or not you could rely on your partner to be there for you at all times, to back you up when there is trouble, and to support you in chasing your dreams.
• An open and honest line of communication – Your lover should be the person that you can talk about anything with, without fear of judgment or rejection.
• Passion – In every sense of the word, meaning both physical and emotional passion for your lover. Passion for something means that you feel very strongly about it and consider it essential in your life.
• Commitment – A relationship is not something to be taken lightly, and you should know whether you have what it takes to let your partner learn and grow in your relationship and whether your partner can do the same for you. As good and bad times are inevitable in every relationship, this is a very important thing to have.
Once you have that foundation, the next aspects naturally follow suit:
• A sense of fun – Always be on the lookout for something new to try, to explore, and to do. The rush and the exhilaration is something that is a strong reaffirmation of the bond you share. Along with new experiences are also new memories that you will both treasure.
• Compromise – Of course, not everything in your partner’s to-do list will be your cup of tea, and vice versa. The best thing to do is to talk about it and reach a compromise. Try her yoga class today, but tomorrow she has to go play 18 rounds with you. Knowing what your partner loves and showing that it matters to you lets your partner know how important she is.
• A sense of adventure – To have this means that you’ll always have something to do, a place to visit, and people to meet. If you’re willing to explore things that you haven't before, chances are you’ll never get tired of the experience and the person that you’re sharing it with.
In the end, there are only two things that you really need to achieve all these things to on how to make your relationship last: One - you have to want it; and two - your partner has to want it. There is no use in trying to make a relationship last if your partner is not in it with you. After all, it takes two to tango.