Passion and Love
Blowing on the Sparks: Rekindling the Passion in a Relationship
by PaulaH
Even the hottest fires will have to cool down, sooner and later. The same goes in every relationship - there is a point where the passion just isn’t what it used to be anymore. You no longer feel the overwhelming urge to be intimate with your partner, nor do you mind going to bed alone. Most couples can’t really pinpoint where it starts and are often reluctant to admit that they are stuck in a boring routine. The bad thing is the longer you stay in that kind of rut, the more one or the other – or even both - will start looking at the greener grass on the other side.
There are signs to look out for such as predictability, boredom, frustration, and restlessness. If you and your partner are experiencing these telltale emotions, you’d better watch out! This could mean the beginning of the end. There are some things you can do, however, to stop the loss of passion – if you want to.
Spruce up yourself a little.
The problem is that most people start to become lazy and complacent, especially in physical appearances, when in a steady relationship. A recent survey revealed that most couples put on a whopping 50 lbs. between them after being together for a while. Take the time to look nice for your partner. Go to the gym and shed a few pounds, or buy some new clothes and give yourself a complete make-over. Chances are the new look will spark a new interest in your passion.
Don’t forget the compliments.
You might start to forget to encourage and compliment your partner, thinking that they already know that you’re there for them. Big mistake! It pays to vocally and visually show your support. A great big smile and hug for a home-cooked meal, or an appreciative glance when your partner is all dressed up goes a very long way.
Try something new – together.
Human beings thrive on novelty, and to share new experiences with your partner is something that will cement your bond in a way that few other things can. Take dancing lessons, eat at a new restaurant, go to a book signing, or experience a yoga class together are a few good ways to explore new interests together.
Be physically intimate - more often.
This doesn’t necessarily mean sex. Most couples forget the rush of that first kiss, or the thrill of holding hands when they were first together. The simple power of the human touch is something that is essential to any relationship. Cuddling in bed, a long hug, a gentle kiss, or even a simple walk while holding hands can speak volumes and really increase the passion.
Be spontaneous!
This is the best piece of advice there is because this embodies the whole idea of love being something that you should enjoy. A little daring and creativity goes a long way. Shed your inhibitions, and go for it. Just make sure you’re not breaking any laws!
If a relationship that has gone cool, it doesn't mean that the fire has died down – the sparks and passion are still there, waiting to be stoked back to life. All you have to do is put in a little time and effort, and you’ll have it hot, crackling, and ready to go in no time!