Better Communication
Communication is the Root of All Problems – Make It Better
by PaulaH
Every relationship has problems. It could be any one of a million things, but it could almost always be attributed to one thing – miscommunication. Indeed, communication makes the world go round, but, when done ineffectively, it can also make or break a relationship. Good communication, therefore, is the most important skill needed in any relationship.
Talk effectively.
Talking a lot doesn't necessarily translate to talking effectively. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. If anything, you might find yourself babbling on and on about something while your partner sinks into a stupor. Here are some things to bear in mind while you're talking:
* Don't assume you'll be immediately understood. Men and women think different, so break down your narrative into 'bite-sized', easy-to-process pieces. This way, you gave your partner a chance to digest you're point.
* Check in – that is to say, make sure your partner is still with you. Men, in particular, can have the attention span of a gnat when it comes to serious conversations, so if he seems distracted, you might want to change your tact.
* Make sure there are no distractions, especially when it comes to intimate issues. Disturbances will only bring more stress. To talk effectively, you both need to be relaxed.
* Bear in mind that each gender handles problems in different ways. Men tend to act on issues right away, while women need to talk around them and explore their feelings. Know where your partner is coming from.
Listen successfully.
When you listen to your partner, you have to really listen. In fact, more often than not, giving your half-hearted attention is a lot worse than not listening altogether because you just seem like you're not interested at all. To listen right and listen well, you have to:
* Make your partner the center of attention. Maintain eye contact and respond appropriately. Most of all, don't forget the power of touch!
* Use positive body language. Nothing is more off-putting than crossed arms and a tense body. Loosen up, smile, and nod. You're partner will not only feel more encouraged to talk effectively, you also give him or her a feeling of appreciation.
* Ask questions to show that you understand and empathize.
Good communication ensures that both partners feel understood, appreciated, and loved. It is, without a doubt, the cornerstone of happy relationships. With good communication, no problems are too hard to solve and no issues are impossible to fix.