When to Break Up and Moving On
Should we break up? That's never an easy question to answer, especially if youv'e been together for a while. Read on for advice on breaking up and moving on.
by PaulaH
Breaking up is not easy whether you stayed in the relationship for ten months or ten years. Thoughts like if you are right to break up, whether you will be hurting the partner by your decision, if you will be able to lead a normal life after it and if you can ever recover from it are common. Some of us owing to this thought process give a second chance to the relationship or do not breakup at all for all the thinking give way to doubts about the reasons to breakup.
Sometimes life reaches a stage where living together becomes too painful to continue. Doubts whether you are at that stage can be overwhelming though and your thinking can be confused. Life becomes very troublesome when you want to break up and are guilty or confused about it at the same time.
To begin with you must rest your mind well while taking out the decision. It is easy to lose your perspective and not be able to judge well when confused and thinking. Relax your mind and busy yourself in other activities for a few days to allow stability of thoughts. Get involved in other activities and with a relaxed mind you will be ready to think rationally again. Once you are at peace with the situation, begin with considering the pros and cons of the situation.
This is perhaps the best way of dealing with a decision making time in your life. Write down the reasons why you would like to break up with your lover in one column and any doubts on why you shouldn’t on the other side. Make sure you do not miss anything including any explanations for the points you have written down. This provides you with insight into the reasons you want to move on over the doubts you may have frequently. Once you are done, read what you wrote and clearly weigh the pros and cons of your decision. If the need arises consult a friend who can guide you well and in a neutral fashion based on your points. Once you make up your mind that a breakup is required and will put you at ease, go ahead and break the news tactfully yet firmly to your partner.
Once you have gone through this exercise of writing the points and are sure that you need to break up, do not allow any amount of tears or explanations to stop you from going ahead with the break up. Stay firm in your resolve.