How to Survive a Break Up
Everybody goes through a break up at some time or another and this article will help you get past it and move on with your life.
by PaulaH
The most painful part of a break up is the beginning when you are constantly dealing with denial. The sooner you accept the fact that the relationship is over, the better it is for your own emotional healing. So, what you go through right at the moment you know your relationship is now over is the worst pain in the break up. Though not really a comforting thought for somebody going through a break up, you need to take comfort in all the little things that see you through the day.
Like everything else, we do not want it to end, to not want to have to deal with the pain, suffering, betrayal and loss; burying it under the carpet for later introspection is such a constant and instant reaction with a majority of us. The sense of loss is huge, yes, and we do not understand it and do not want to deal with it. Give yourself a break from every day life so you can let the new status of the relationship sink in. Do not give in to the easy way out of pushing it away and denying it head on. Dealing with it now will cause some fair amount of pain but think of the hurt after some time, or the cumulative effect of this buried pain coupled with any other stress at work or life. So, as difficult as it may be, it is better to deal with it now.
Though as with a number of other things in life, we can push them and get away with them; with your feelings and a break up, you have to feel it and accept it to survive it. Let the pain pass and since it is almost like meditation, gain from it. Learn from your mistakes to enhance your future relationships. The deeper you explore your hurt and the break up, the more at peace you will be with yourself and even your ex! If you cannot do it alone, seek help. Friends and family can be great help; if not then professional help is highly recommended. Join therapy or yoga and meditation. Talk with people in your class and you will be amazed to find a number of people going through a similar stage. Use their experiences to empower yourself. You will do yourself a huge favor by accepting the break up and dealing with it effectively and sufficiently in order to really move on with life.