Don't Prolong a Break Up
Whether you are a guy or a girl, breaking up can be quite difficult so do your partner a favor and don't put it off if you've already decided that you are moving forward with it.
by PaulaH
If you are contemplating a breakup or your partner has given you the news, it is decided and you must accept it. Accept that the relationship is over, that you need to move on. This can be a difficult time but you need to ensure you do not delay the grieving process so you can get it over with quickly and move on with your life. You have living to do, so get to it!
By deliberating on the breakup for long, you are prolonging and intensifying the pain and hurt. Gradually begin to get back to the social circuit and begin having fun with trying new things. Take up a new course or hobby or continue with old interests you could not devote your time to when in the relationship. Staying busy either at work or having fun with friends is the key to getting over a breakup.
Begin hanging out with friends and have fun in your everyday life. Keep your options open for new dates and once you are out on a few dates, your ex is bound to notice and find that it has been their loss. If you are even remotely contemplating a second try with your ex, make sure you have had your share of fun alone before you allow that second chance. You may realize that you do need the relationship either or that you were compromising a lot on your interests and hobbies or desires and may not want to get back again. Break up regret is natural but don’t get too eager to get back together without trying it alone first.
If you are thinking about a break up, things have likely already disintegrated enough to go through with it now. This is the stage when you stop to think how painful it will be and whether you must reconsider. Relationship loss is a big loss for most of us and the decision to move on takes time. But, if you have carefully weighed the decision, you will see that breaking up is best for you both. Better to do it now and get it over with than to hang on to something that will end eventually. If a break up is inevitable, prolonging the pain will just make it worse. Instead, stay firm and have the discussion with your partner. Be polite, honorable and sincere but do it quickly and do not change your mind.