When to End a Relationship
Ideally, whenever you think you should move on in life, it is better to just do it and get past it. This article will help you recognize when it's time to end the relationship and move on.
by PaulaH
When deciding on breaking up, sometimes we are too angry to make a rational decision or even too emotional to where we avoid the issue altogether. A peaceful break up is best but sometimes our emotions and doubts get in the way. After making the decision of breaking up, the first thought that crosses the mind of the partner wanting to move on is whether they are doing the right thing. Doubts begin to crop up and it may want you to rethink the entire episode and postpone breaking up altogether. That would, however, be the easy way out for yourself and the partner involved. If a break up has crossed your mind, chances are your relationship is definitely not all perfect.
At times of doubt of the reasons to break up and when in doubt whether you will be doing the right thing and be fair to your partner, get some rest. Simply drop all work and all thinking and change your mental scenario. Begin getting involved in another activity, physical activities like jogging or listening to music or meditation can take your mind off these thoughts. Once you are still and peaceful, take out a notebook and begin writing down the pros and cons of the relationship. Also write down all the reasons you have for the break up together with counter questions and explanations. Don’t forget to also mention the reasons you have for remaining in the relationship. All this must be done wholeheartedly for your own benefit and for keeping you from heartbreak if you make a hasty decision.
Now that you have all that you think about your partner and the relationship on the sheet, read it and now assess the relationship. Are the cons much more in number or affect your daily life in a bad way? See if a close friend can help you assess these feelings and help you reach that critical decision of breaking up or staying on. If you think things are just not going right and all the promises you wanted out of a partner and relationship have not come your way through this relationship, you know this is the time when you must break up and move on.
Once you have decided to break up, it is only fair that you break the news gently yet firmly to your partner. Breaking up must be taken seriously with no looking back. While it is possible to remain friends eventually, take some time to heal first before pursuing such an endeavor.